“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” – Viktor Frankl (Holocaust Survivor)
You’ve been hurt. You’ve been disappointed. You’ve been let down. But please don’t harden your hearts. To harden your heart may seem like it’s a path that leads to perceived safety by erecting a fortress with walls a thousand feet high, but on the contrary, it is a path that leads to unrest, isolation, anger, resentment, and bitterness.
When we allow our hearts to become hardened, we say to the world and to they that perhaps has caused such hurt and disappointment that they win. In this, we begin to rob the world of our narrative. A narrative we all need. Yes.. your narrative. My narrative.
“Don’t let others rob the world of your narrative because they treated you in a way that was a direct result of them letting others rob them of theirs.”
For me, a hardened heart is that which has kept me from perspective. It has kept me from wisdom. It has kept me from forgiveness, mercy, and grace. It has kept me from giving thanks.
But we justify a hardened heart by making us believe that it will protect us from being hurt, disappointed, or let down again. Did it? Or has it become so much a part of us that we don’t even realize it? Oh how the barnacle of life can fool us.
How did we get here?
How we got here should not be a bit of a surprise. When we entered this path, we entered it based on emotion. Emotion knows not logic. But on the contrary, logic knows not emotion. But both? This is wisdom.
Finding our way out of here is a path filled with forgiveness. To forgive and to be forgiven. To inhale grace and to exhale thanks. Certainly this is not an easy road. The road to freedom rarely is.
Finding our way out of here is also a path filled with acceptance. Acceptance of the fact that You matter, You are valued and that You are loved.
A hard heart will keep you from truly accepting these three things about yourself. And, when we can’t accept them for ourselves, what then shall we accept in others?
It’s sad how hurt people.. hurt people. It’s all a defense mechanism that somehow has become our coping mechanism that remind me… what does this solve again?
I’ll stop my ponder now. I have some things to let go of. I have some things to be let go of. I am grateful this day for the One who makes all things new. The One who makes all things possible.
Finding our way out of here is a path that begins with surrender. Surrender to the One who will give us a new heart.
“And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart.” – Ezekiel 36:26
It’s funny how a fortress with walls a thousand feet high can be reduced to rubble in a matter of moments. I never knew freedom was so close.