“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
I think everyone should conduct a self audit in viewing our hearts through the lens of these words. I think we should constantly keeps these words before us like that of a roadmap to help navigate us through the relationships of life.
When we don’t, we get lost. When we don’t over time, we’ll lose our relationships as well. Because, when our actions are contrary to these words, we not only hurt ourselves, we also hurt those who are closest to us with our words.
In this, our actions in turn, over time, have a way of placing the beauty of others behind fences. And this is exactly where their beauty should never be found.
But the truth is, not living this way is most often only a reflection of our own hurts and unresolved pain that someone else, in turn, handed off to us once upon a time ever so long ago.
Living in such a way already has long placed our own beauty behind these same fences. With this, is there anything worse than a self image serving a life sentence?
This must stop.
Yet, one cannot simply say, today I am going to live in such a way. This is not something that one can, by effort, add to their repertoire a to-do list that will allow them to love.
Instead, we add these things to our heart by subtraction by allowing God, who first loved us, to subtract the very hurts and pains in our own hearts that will sabotage our relationships and keep us from reflecting love in such a way. And even more importantly, can build a fence between us and God.
God wants to commute our life sentence. Our self images no longer need be defined by such hurt. But rather instead, by His love. Will you let Him?
Be free. And in this, may you in turn, bring freedom to those whom your own life sentence was passed on to by your very actions.
Your beauty doesn’t belong behind fences, it never did. And neither does theirs.
Be loved, because you are.
It’s not too late. We love others because He first loved us.
Be loved my friend, because He does.